True Self Healing

Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming, but here are a few things to consider:

1. Specialization: Look for a therapist who specializes in the issues you’re facing. For example, if you’re struggling with anxiety, trauma, or relationship issues, make sure the therapist has experience working with those concerns.
2. Comfort & Connection: It’s important that you feel comfortable with your therapist. A good therapist will make you feel heard, respected, and safe. Trust your gut—if you don’t feel a connection after a session or two, it’s okay to try someone else.
3. Consultation: Many therapists offer a free initial consultation, where you can get a feel for their style and ask questions. This is a great way to decide if you’re a good fit.

Remember, the right therapist is someone who makes you feel understood, supported, and empowered.

What is your therapeutic approach, and have you worked with clients who have similar challenges to mine?

What can I expect from a typical session?

How do you customize your approach for each person?

What are your fees, and do you accept insurance?

How do you handle any uncomfortable feelings that may come up during therapy?

The length of therapy depends on your goals and how much support you need. We’ll regularly reassess and adjust the plan as needed.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, but you don’t need to worry about the technical details! Let’s break it down simply:

EMDR is a type of therapy that helps you process and heal from past experiences or traumas that may still affect you today. When something difficult happens in our lives, our brains don’t always process the memories in a way that helps us move on. This means that even though the event may have happened years ago, it can still cause emotional pain, anxiety, or stress.

Here’s how it works:
During EMDR, we’ll use a simple process where you follow a set of movements, like tapping your hands or following my fingers with your eyes. This helps your brain process those old, unprocessed memories in a new way. It’s like helping your brain “refile” the memory so it’s less emotionally painful.

Why is it effective?
This approach is different from traditional talk therapy because it doesn’t just focus on talking about the trauma over and over. Instead, EMDR works directly with your brain to help you process difficult memories and beliefs so they no longer impact you as much.

How can it help me?
If you’ve been stuck in certain emotions or reactions (like feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected), EMDR can help by reducing the emotional charge around those memories. It makes it easier for you to feel calm, focused, and more in control, even when life gets tough.

Even if you don’t think you have “big” trauma, EMDR can still help with small stressful events from childhood, like feeling ignored or having to deal with a lot of stress without enough support. These kinds of experiences can also affect your well-being in the long run, and EMDR can help you heal from them.

In short, EMDR helps you process painful memories and helps you feel better, faster, without having to relive the trauma. It’s a gentle and effective way to feel like yourself again!

Therapy is a safe, non-judgmental space, and we move at a pace you’re comfortable with. You don’t have to talk about anything you’re not ready to share.

Even if you haven’t experienced big trauma, small stressful events can also have lasting effects. Therapy can help process these experiences and prevent them from affecting your life.

Understanding Trauma: Little T vs. Big T

Trauma doesn’t always have to be a big, dramatic event. While “Big T” trauma refers to major events like abuse, neglect, or loss, “Little T” trauma can refer to smaller, everyday experiences that still have a lasting impact on your emotional well-being.

For example, you may not have experienced a major event that stands out as traumatic, but there could have been times when you felt unsupported, unheard, or abandoned in subtle ways—such as parents being emotionally unavailable due to work stress, feeling constantly dismissed, or not having the emotional tools to cope with life’s challenges.

These “Little T” experiences can accumulate over time, affecting how we handle stress, relationships, and our sense of self. Even if you had a seemingly “good” childhood, small emotional wounds can still create lasting effects on your mental health, making it hard to manage emotions and navigate relationships today.

Therapy helps identify and process both “Big T” and “Little T” traumas, giving you the tools to heal and improve your emotional resilience, regardless of the nature of the experiences you’ve had.

That’s okay! Therapy doesn’t always have to be about digging into the past. If you’re focused on current stressors, we can work together on practical tools and coping strategies to manage your emotions and navigate life’s challenges. This approach is more present-focused—we’ll focus on building skills to handle stress, anxiety, or difficult situations in your life right now.

You’ll leave each session with practical tools that you can start using immediately to feel more in control and less overwhelmed. This can be a short-term approach that helps you manage and reduce your stress in the moment, while still giving you space to heal and grow in the future if you ever feel ready to dive deeper.

It’s important to feel comfortable with your therapist. If something doesn’t feel right, we can reassess and discuss what might be a better fit for you.